6 CRUCIAL WAYS TO CHANGE YOUR DATING LIFE
KNOW WHAT YOU WANT IN 2022! Don't let this be yet another year with more of the same, a broken record on repeat! Make a CHANGE THIS TIME and PRIORITIZE what you want!
If you really think about it, most of us would never approach our business lives with the same strategy model we apply to our personal life (a weakly thought-out strategy, repetitive poor decision-making, laziness, etc.)
To turn your love life around and create the types of outcomes you want in 2022:
1. Change your attitude, first and foremost. Spot the recurring, limiting beliefs you have about yourself and/or your ability to find true love. LOVE YOURSELF FIRST. PRACTICE BEING HOPEFUL.
2. Learn from past lessons in dating. Take steps to acknowledge the patterns in your decision-making for dating that continue to not serve you well. Choose not to spin your wheels on the same things this year. Because it IS a choice! Make a proactive commitment to have 2022 go differently in your personal life.
3. CHOOSE OPENLY YET WISELY. You have to be open to people who don't 100% checkmark ALL boxes. HOWEVER, with that in mind you should continue to be laser-focused on the most important MUST HAVES when it comes to meeting your forever person. Create a list of 5 OF YOUR TOP traits, values or characteristics that a future partner must have that are the most meaningful for you. (Looks aside, this list should only contain actual personality/background traits that are absolutely important to share in common with "YOUR FOREVER PERSON"). Also, forget about a lengthy laundry list; stick to FIVE.
Next, apply this list to your decision-making when deciding with whom you should go on a date/ when deciding who to date. If you don't know someone well enough to say just yet, then a first date may be warranted. But with each consecutive date, you should be taking the temperature on your 5 THINGS and use this as a compass to determine if it's worth continued time. You can avoid wasting A LOT of time by not accepting a date with anyone who doesn't accurately embody/meet those 5 criteria you KNOW are non-negotiable deal-breakers in the first place.
4. STOP MAKING EXCUSES FOR PEOPLE. People will tell you who they are early on through their actions. Take accountability for yourself if you have turned a blind eye to it or made excuses for people.
5. STOP MAKING EXCUSES FOR YOURSELF. There's nothing wrong with spending a year "casually dating" if that is truly what you want. However, please DON'T COMPLAIN ABOUT NOT FINDING A RELATIONSHIP! Continuing to 'casually hang out' with someone you know doesn't make sense for you in the long-term just takes up space and energy in your life, and increasingly blocks you from meeting the right one - whether you realize it or not. It's just how life and the universe works. (I get that it's not fair, but don't shoot the messenger!).
6. BE KIND TO YOURSELF. Super important. And, remember what you are thankful for, no matter what.
#happy2022 #abetteryou #lifeandlovelessons #worthy #soulmate
